How to Accept God’s Timing
All Jesus-followers are called to obediently wait on God’s timing, developing our dreams and lowering our lives into the basin of God’s richest blessings.
God has been disclosing to us through his Word the fact that Caleb was the boldest dreamer in the Bible. In The Caleb Quest we are learning that dreams don’t come true by accident. On the contrary, fulfilled dreams are the result of clear thinking, strong faith, patience and hard work. It is common for us as Jesus-followers to be born with a desire deep within—a seed, a purpose, a dream, and a promise of something greater.
We understood in our last message that a close look at Caleb’s dream revealed three qualities that excited God and made him want to get involved in Caleb’s pursuits.
Caleb activated God’s desires by his humility
Caleb activated God’s desires by his courage
Caleb activated God’s desires by his loyalty
Catherine Marshall in her book entitled Beyond Ourselves, writes…”In order to fly, the bird must have two wings. One wing is the realization of our human helplessness; the other is the realization of God’s power. Our faith in God’s ability to handle our particular situation is the connecting link.”
We all come to points in our lives where we wonder if our dreams will come true. Perhaps we wonder what we really want to do. Different things can trigger such a feeling—we may be…
in school looking for a career path,
married looking for things to do around our role as a spouse or a parent,
older looking for either a career change, or for new activities that can excite us and fill our days as well as ourselves, or
in our golden years and feeling a desire to still be productive and useful.
What I have learned through 40 years of ministry is this compelling principle:
Dreams don’t always come true when we want them to.
Life is seasonal. We experience different seasons of life. Like new chapters in a book that keep the story going, seasons reflect periods of time in our lives. God has seasons—similar to winter, spring, summer, and fall. We all go through periods when we are either in the deserts, beaches, valleys, or mountains.
Just like life is seasonal, so our dreams are seasonal.
There are sequentially four seasons to a dream:
Summer—when an idea or seed thought begins to grow within our heart and mind.
Fall—when that dream is tested.
Winter—when we wonder what is happening to our dream as it seems to be going nowhere.
Spring—when our dream finally comes true.
As we comprehend God at work in the midst of our dreams, we concentrate mostly on what happens in the seasons of fall and winter. This is the time period between a dream’s conception and its birth.
Paul shared with Titus that he was called to be “an apostle of Jesus Christ to further the faith of God’s elect and their knowledge of the truth that leads to godliness.” Paul writes about God’s season in Titus 1:3…
…and which now at his appointed time through the preaching entrusted to me by the command of God our Savior.
Basically, Paul was speaking of God’s use of his preaching of the gospel at God’s appointed season, or time. Let’s make no mistake about it—God doesn’t do stuff just on a whim or an impulse. God’s timing is most often different from our timing, but God always has a plan and a purpose for everything he does or allows.
The apostle Peter writes in 2 Peter 3:8…
But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.
An economist who read this verse was quite amazed and talked to God about it. “Lord, is it true that a thousand years for us is like one minute to you?” The Lord said, “Yes.” The economist said, “Then a million dollars to us must be like one penny to you.” The Lord said, “Well, yes.” The economist said, “Will you give me one of those pennies?” The Lord said, “All right, I will. Just wait a minute!”
Let’s consider Jesus’ coming, for instance. The prophet writes in Isaiah 40:3-4…
A voice of one calling: “In the wilderness prepare the way for the LORD; make straight in the desert a highway for our God. Every valley shall be raised up, every mountain and hill made low; the rough ground shall become level, the rugged places a plain.”
Paul writes in Galatians 4:4…
But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son…
Jesus didn’t come to earth until God was ready for him to come. For in God’s timing, his season, Jesus came to redeem us—not a “season” sooner or later. So the timing of God’s seasons is just as important as the changing of the seasons themselves.
And just like the seasons of the year, our seasons have specific time frames. Now these time frames, these seasons, may be dependant upon our learning and applying specific lessons to our lives or a need for growth and dependence upon God. So. . . what do we do?
Let’s once again consider what Caleb did and how God responded in Numbers 14:24…
“But because my servant Caleb has a different spirit and follows me wholeheartedly, I will bring him into the land he went to, and his descendants will inherit it.”
We pursue the heart of God and wholeheartedly follow him. God promises to provide the blessing in his time. Now we discovered in our first message that Caleb waited upon God’s promise during a forty-five year season to inherit the land. Caleb was still vigorous at the age of eight-five (see Joshua 14:10-11) when he received his inheritance!
So like Caleb, we ask God to show us the lessons we are supposed to learn during God’s appointed seasons. We experience a particular season because God has appointed us to be in that season. We are in that season because God loves and desires that we grow in our faith and in knowledge of him. So. . .let’s make no mistake. . . it’s no accident. . .it’s no coincidence. . . that many of us right now are in a season of transition personally and as a church. So, we should thank God for loving us enough to want us to learn and grow. We grow in our patience with God concerning his timing.
The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not smashing it. –Arnold Glasow.
Divine Delays
We live in a terribly fast-paced culture. We’re so used to getting things in a hurry that we go from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde if we have to wait even a few seconds longer than we think is reasonable. For example, notice how instantly irritable we get if the guy ahead of us sits a little too long when the light turns green. Or think about how many times we’ve rolled our eyes, tapped our feet and grumbled under our breath because the checkout clerk in the express lane of the supermarket had to run and do a price check. We want our stuff, and we want it now! But when it comes to our dreams, we simply must develop a whole new perspective.
Worthwhile dreams have many enemies and encounter many obstacles. Our best friend in the dream business, God himself, is often responsible for the delays we experience. Let’s look at a few reasons for these divine delays.
1. God’s timing is governed by first things first
God may love our dreams and their fulfillment might well be on his agenda, but God may have other things he wants to do first.
We must remember that God is sovereign. God has a plan for this world, and he is going to unfold it as he sees fit, no matter how anxious or restless we may be. That was certainly the case with Caleb. He was all charged up and ready to go busting into the land of Canaan in Numbers 13. But God slammed the door because he had something else he wanted to take care of first.
There were the dream killers who gave a negative report. God wanted to weed out of the population those who murmured and whined. So God decided to do it by sending them on a forty-year trek through the wilderness (Numbers 14:29-30). In essence, God was saying to Caleb, “Sorry, my friend. I haven’t forgotten you, but I want to take care of this problem first.”
And here’s the point we must not miss: the forty-year delay, as difficult as it must have been for Caleb to endure, actually sweetened his dream when it finally did come true. So we need to understand that the Bible tells us that God’s character is based on order and design—for God is not a God of disorder, but of peace… 1 Corinthians 14:33. We need to believe that God knows what he’s doing, that he will take first things first and bless our dreams when the time is right.
2. God’s timing is guarded by the strength of character
God may be waiting for us to show more passion for the little things, giving us time to prepare for what our dream come true will require of us.
If our dreams came true, would they put great demands on our time? If so, maybe God is waiting for us to become more disciplined and organized so that we won’t get in over our heads. God most often will test our strength of character with the little things before he gives us something bigger.
Perhaps we’ve noticed that many great Bible heroes went through a time of preparation before God called them to greatness. For example, Moses lived in a wilderness for many years before God called him to lead his people through one. Joshua humbly served as Moses’ understudy, hungrily devouring the timeless principles of leadership. Caleb went through a time of grounding before God called him to go into battle to claim his inherited land. And Jesus patiently taught and trained the disciples for three years before he turned them loose to build his church.
If our dreams seem to be on hold, we need to spend some time thinking about the specific ways our lives would change if our dreams suddenly came true. The bottom line is this: if there’s any hint that we’re not prepared in strength of character—physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually—to handle our dreams come true, then we must get to work. God might be waiting for us to do our part before he does his.
3. God’s timing is gauged by the sin issue
God may be waiting for us to deal with some sin in our lives.
If we’re parents, we’ll have no problem grasping this idea. We know how easy it is to grant our children’s wishes when they’re obedient and respectful. But when they sass us…leave chores undone…or worst yet, when they blatantly disobey the rules we’ve set up, we’re not receptive at all to their requests.
Just as God had to deal with the sin issue regarding the children of Israel, he will deal with the sin issue concerning Jesus-followers today. Right now, sin may be the only thing standing between us and the fulfillment of our dreams. We may be smarter and more talented than others who have done what we dream of doing. We may have fully prepared ourselves to succeed, and we may have shown passion in the small things God has given us to do. But God may discount our prayers and actively slam every door of opportunity because of some sinful habit or attitude with which we’ve grown comfortable. God may be actively opposing us as a way of disciplining us for our disobedience.
There was an old Bible that ended up in our church office after Sunday worship. As I looked through it, I noticed that the owner had highlighted or underlined many verses that contained a promise of God’s blessing. Very nice, I thought, until I noticed something odd. In many cases, the person had failed to highlight the conditions that were attached to the promises. For example…
“Take delight in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).
“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know” (Jeremiah 33:3).
“If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you” (John 15:7).
In every verse, the owner had highlighted the second half of the verses not the first.
Questions: are we living our lives the way this person marked the Bible? Are we ignoring the conditions of God’s promises? Are we assuming that God will bless us, even if we’re not living for him? Are we telling ourselves that we’ll still get our dreams met, even if we’re not coming before God with our sins under control? If so, we must wake up. It doesn’t work that way.
So what we’ve realized is that our dreams come true in the fullness of time. They come true when God, in his infinite wisdom, says the time is right.
Proverbs 16:9 affirms…
In their hearts human beings plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.
Our job is to be faithful in the meantime.
For Personal or Group Discussion…
Let’s take an inventory and ask the following questions…
1. Have you ever had a dream come true? Looking back, could you have done anything to speed up the process?
2. Can you think of a reason why God might be waiting to bless your current dream? Do you need to be attentive to the work God has already given you?
3. Have you ignored a sin in your life? Why haven’t you dealt with it? What could you do today to start bringing that sin under control?
I want to encourage you to lower your bucket into the basin of God’s provision. What is the reservoir of resources that you have— the talents, the motivations that are yours and that were present in your more rewarding experiences through the years? The answers for your future are that close to you. If you haven’t done it, you could make a list of the achievement/experiences that were particularly meaningful and look for what motivated you in those experiences, as well as the talents that you drew upon. These key things will undoubtedly form the core of any new activities or dreams. They are the gifts God has given you for whatever he has chosen you to do. Your deepest passions help to fulfill the purposes for your life. They reveal them to you. What are your circumstances, who are the people you know, what are the contacts you have? They, too, are part of your provisions. Become aware of the timing and the help of those situations, and the people that surround you. There may be a fit with what you are doing. Some would call it serendipity. I would call it “God in the details.” Something you need or someone you need is there just when you need help the most.
I read of a story of a cancer survivor who was told she had a year to live. She felt lead to write a book about her struggles, even though she basically felt her life had ended. She decided to follow that leading in her heart. She lowered her bucket into the basin of God’s provisions. It would seem God had another job for her to do. Eventually her book was published. As she would say, “By God’s grace a whole new world opened up.” She went on to live thirty six more years! While this might not be everyone’s story, it shows the power of listening to and answering the call of your heart. Sometimes we don’t need to ask “Why?” we should do something, but “Why not?”
What is the message your heart has for you? Take advantage of “where you are” and find the courage to follow your own heart’s leading. Your soul’s story is where your passions and dreams reside, and they hold a rich promise for your future.
As this message series comes to an end and we lay it aside, let’s take up The Caleb Quest. Let’s pray that someday, at the time of God’s choosing, we’ll each see the fulfillment of our lifelong dreams for ourselves, our family, our community, our church, and our world. But just as fervently, we must pray that when our dreams happen, we’ll use them to bless others. If we do, like Caleb—the boldest dreamer in the Bible, we’ll make a startling discovery: that the giving away of our dreams will bring us more joy and beauty than their fulfillment ever did! The wise man Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 3:11…
He has made everything beautiful in his time.
Amen.