6_Living in my Sweet Spot
This message series on Connections is enabling us as Jesus-followers to be faithful, fruitful, and fulfilled in a meaningful place of service in the body of Christ. We are discovering that our Servant-Profile is made up of our spiritual gifts, personal styles, and God-given passions for serving in the church.
We have spent our last five messages exploring the importance of committing our lives to God as living sacrifices, desiring to be used of God by having a sober estimate of ourselves, by discovering our spiritual gifts, affirming our God-given personal styles, and monitoring our heartbeats by our ministry passions which help us make a difference for kingdom service in the body of Christ. Paul is disclosing to us through Romans 12 how God designed the church to function as a body of Christ, serving each other with Spiritual gifts, personal styles, and ministry passions.
Finding the Sweet Spot. To find one of the “sweet spots” on a baseball bat we need a bat, a hammer, and preferably a friend. We hold the bat, hanging down, loosely between our thumb and index finger, just below the knob on the bat’s handle. We have a friend tap the bat gently with a hammer, starting at the fat end and moving toward the handle. (We can also do it ourselves, although it’s easier and more fun with a friend.) We should feel a vibration in our fingers whenever the bat is struck, except when the “node”(the place where the waves will always cancel each other out) is hit; then we’ll feel nothing. We may also notice a slightly different sound when the node is struck. What is going on? When we hit a ball just right, we’ve hit it on the “sweet spot” of the bat. This sweet spot relates to vibration. Whenever an object is struck, it vibrates in response. These vibrations travel in waves up and down the length of the object. If we hit the ball on the bat’s node, the vibrations from the impact will cancel out, and we won’t feel any stinging or shaking in our hands. Since little of the bat’s energy is lost to vibrations when this spot is hit, more energy can go to the ball. Therefore, the ball is driven farther. When a ball hits the node, we don’t feel any vibration in our hand. When it hits the center of percussion, our hand doesn’t feel any force pushing against it. The challenge for young players is to learn where the sweet spot is and why it matters—mostly in how the ball feels when hit. Why? Because if the contact is less painful, then a hitter will develop confidence, a willingness to hit the ball even on cold days! So, while the study of finding the sweep spot is based on physics research, and began with a tennis racquet, it has some very practical applications in the batter’s box during a game.
The same is true for Jesus-followers when we consider kingdom service within the body of Christ. If we can discover the “sweet spot” where our Spiritual gifts, personal styles, and ministry passions all converge, then ministry will become less painful, we will develop more confidence, and foster a willingness to serve in the toughest of ministry situations.
Kingdom Service =
“Ministry in the body of Christ which extends itself beyond the walls of the church, and reaches into the community and the world.”
Along with the Spiritual gifts, personal styles and ministry passions, God gives us as Jesus-followers this “sweet spot” that helps us discover the place to serve in the body of Christ. Our “sweet spot” gives us opportunity to serve in our uniqueness, in everyday life, and for God’s glory. Church service is often limited to ministry that is expended within the walls of the church like on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings. Kingdom service reaches beyond the walls of the church into the community and the world. This kingdom service goes beyond church services and classes and expands into ministries like our Preschool, Cody’s Courtyard, Harvest Festivals, and cross-cultural missions.
Romans 12:14-2114 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not think you are superior. 17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Paul concludes his instruction in Romans 12 by highlighting the Jesus-follower’s kingdom service to the community. In these verses, Paul describes proper kingdom service toward persecutors, toward all people in general, and even toward our enemies.
Cure for the Common Life
Our passage is a continuation of the passage which began in verse 9. There, Paul sounded the theme when he said, “Love must be sincere.” What this entire section is talking about is the exercise and extensions of grace, both to our brothers and sisters, and to the world, even our enemies. The keynote is love. That is the determining factor in both our attitudes and actions when it comes to kingdom service. The love of God motivates us. It leads us to possess the correct attitudes toward the world, and to portray the correct actions as well.
Paul offers a series of attitudes to possess and actions to portray wherewith to provide a cure for the common life. We can observe several of these attitudes that govern our relationships with one another in Romans 12:14-21…
The cure for the common life is two-fold:
1. Kingdom service emerges from essential attitudes we possess
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not think you are superior.
What are the attitudes to possess toward all people, even the world, and how are they manifested in daily living? Well, we have already stated that the love of God is the foundational attitude which undergirds all other attitudes Jesus-followers must posses. These are manifested in three important ways.
There is an unexpected response. If we take a stand as a Jesus-follower in Christ, one thing is certain: we will encounter opposition from the world. This persecution comes in various forms, from subtle to overt. It can be as simple as not being included in a certain circle of friends, to being ridiculed publicly before our coworkers and associates.
How are we to respond to those who persecute us? Well, the natural reaction of one who does not know Christ is to strike back, to call down the curse of God upon them. But this is not the Jesus-follower’s response. According to verse 14, we are to bless those who persecute us. The word for bless in Greek means “to speak well” of a person. The word in English, “eulogize,” is taken from this Greek word. So, to bless those who persecute us, is to eulogize them, to speak well of them. That is the Jesus-follower’s response and it is an unexpected response. It testifies to the world that we are different. This is the character of Christ. Indeed, he practiced what he preached. On the cross, he prayed for those who crucified him there.
There is an unchanged identification.What we are being told in verse 15 is that we need to be involved in the lives of those we wish to reach. Jesus-followers are “people who care.” We don’t just care about ourselves, but about others. We should care about those things which cause people to rejoice, and about those things which cause people to weep. We should care so much that we get caught up in their lives. We must have an unchanged identification with the human condition. By unchanged, we mean that it must be real, not put on. We cannot act like we care. We must really care. “People generally don’t care who we know, they just want to know we care!”
In John’s Gospel, we see Jesus portrayed as one who rejoiced and wept with people. His first “sign” was performed at a wedding. His last “sign” was performed at a funeral. One in life’s gladdest hour, the other in life’s saddest. Here again, Jesus is our example. He identified with sinners — not with their sin, but with the human struggle to break free from sin and to live for God. Jesus didn’t identify with sinners in order to leave them in their sin and neither should we. Rather, we must identify with them in order to lead them out of sin into a new life with Christ.
There is an unaffected humility.The lesson in verse 16 is clear. It is simply — don’t be proud. To be conceited is contrary to true Christian character. A true Jesus-follower must never be proud. Here, Jesus is our example again. He said, “Learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart.” (Matthew 11:29) There are so many ways that pride can puff up the Jesus-follower. There’s the pride of birth and rank; wealth; respectability; personal appearance; reputation; learning; success; ability; self-will; and intellect. We could go on and on. Jesus never succumbed to any of these false influences of superiority in his life and ministry. Neither should we be affected by the world’s false standards of pride.
2. Kingdom service materializes through elemental actions we portray
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
God’s love is not only foundational to our attitudes, but it is foundational to our actions as well. Not only do Jesus-followers have attitudes to possess, but they also have actions to portray. Love is the motivating factor in both.
There is an unmistakable righteousness.As Jesus-Followers, we must be committed to righteousness, not only in theory, but in practice. We must be committed to righteousness as an absolute for the Christian life. Our commitment to doing right should never depend on the commitment or lack of commitment of anyone else. We are exhorted in verse 17 never to pay back evil for evil to anyone, but to respect what is right in the sight of everyone.
So much of the world lives with what is called “situation ethics.” “Situation ethics” proclaims a relativistic view of right and wrong based on the circumstance, not on the precepts of God. Therefore, the standard we follow is not the standard of culture around us. We follow a higher directive, an absolute higher standard. It is the standard of God. And while many in the world reject this standard, they also recognize it. We are judged by a higher standard, even by the world. So, it is important that we be committed to doing right, not just in theory, but in practice.
There is an undeniable peacemaking.We notice the thrust of verse 18. It is not simply a command to be at peace with everyone, because the command is qualified by specific language. There are two phrases which qualify it: The first is “if it is possible.” This seems to indicate that it may not be possible to live at peace with some people.
Indeed, some people set themselves against us as our enemy. Every effort we may endeavor to make peace changes nothing. They have made a decision that they are against us, and it seems impossible to change that decision. So we are reminded, firstly, that it may not be possible to live at peace with everyone. But we are commanded that if it is possible, we need to make the effort.
The second phrase is “as far as it depends on you.” Here, we are commanded to not let the fault lie with us. If there is something that we can do about it, we need to take action. This is what is called an undaunted peacemaking. Peacemaking should be free from the overwhelming influence of others, even those with whom we are trying to make peace. It should be a fearlesseffort on our part, made because we are endeavoring to be obedient to God.
There is an uncalculated approach.Revenge is always outside the will of God. It is so, not only because the Lord reserves vengeance for himself, but because of what it does to us when we become vengeful. The motto, “Don’t get mad, get even,” may sound cute, but it works devastation at a deep emotional level in the lives of those who practice it. Verse 19 instructs us to entrust our cause into the hands of the Lord. God is the only one who can judge the motives as well as the action. And God has taken note of those things which have been done to us. We must remember that no one gets away with anything, ever.
Verse 20 says that we seek to portray actions motivated out of the love of God. We must act at the basic level of human need. If our enemies are hungry, we must feed them; if they are thirsty, we must give them a drink. We are called on to find a need and fill it. The examples given here are only typical of two of the most basic needs of life. But there are many other needs we can meet as well. This kind of Christian love distinguishes those who are Jesus-followers in word from those who are Jesus-followers in deed.
Let’s consider just a short note in verse 20 on the phrase, “In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” By doing good to our enemies, we are actually meeting a desperate need. In certain middle-east countries, especially in Jesus’ time, the women would arise before light to begin to bake their flat loaves of bread. In every village, a young boy was chosen to distribute the live coals—one to each woman—to ignite her individual fire to bake the loaves of bread. The container of coals was carried on a turban on his head, and since the mornings were often chilly and he had little else to warm him, the task was held to be an honor and much sought after. Only the most deserving boys were selected. But there was another reason this was held to be an honor. It was believed that the seat of wisdom and spiritual grace was in the head, and so the boy was doubly blessed since the warmth of the coals stimulated not only his physical well-being but his spiritual and mental as well.
Paul was not referring to vengeance. He was talking of the unexpected warmth of love in a cold world, of stimulating forgiveness and quietness, wisdom, and understanding where there is only human anger and bitterness. Such an act is not easily forgotten. Thus, the unconquerable approach of the Jesus-follower in verse 21 is to be victorious over evil by doing good. This is the strategy given to us by Jesus Himself, and it is an unstoppable strategy, an unconquerable strategy. It is the strategy of kingdom service.
Have we possessed the kind of attitudes which emulate the love of God to the world?
Have we portrayed the kind of actions that exemplify the character of Christ?
Sweet Spot Service
We discovered in our last message that some ministry passions can be centered around a people group or a social issue. We also affirmed that our heartbeat types fall into one of the following categories: Visionary, Manager, and Builder. Based upon our responses to the assessment of our spiritual gifts, personal styles, and ministry passions, there are ministry categories within the church that lend themselves to kingdom service. [Note these categories in Christ First’s Ministry Matrix on the following page].
Worship/Celebration Ministries.The heart of these ministries is directed toward God by engaging the church in the Word, worship, song, drama and the arts. It serves a variety of worship styles and creatively proclaims God’s redeeming love.
Care/Discipleship Ministries. The heart of these ministries is assisting people in the church with their physical and spiritual needs, and developing fully devoted followers of Jesus in the area of their gifts, ministry, training, and leadership.
Mission/Service Ministries. The heart of these ministries reaches out to people in local and global cross-cultural settings. It serves a variety of life-stage groups for growth and accountability in kingdom service.
Outreach/Evangelism Ministries. The heart of these ministries is focused on relating, reaching, and connecting unbelievers and the unchurched to a relationship with Christ and his church. It serves to integrate guests and attendees through hospitality, fellowship, belonging, and encouragement.
My “Sweet Spot” in kingdom service is in the ministry category of:
_____ Worship/Celebration _____ Care/Discipleship
_____ Mission/Service _____ Outreach/Evangelism
We can summarize this message series on Connections with the following truths concerning our Servant Profile:
Our Spiritual Sacrifice initiates the offering of our bodies and minds to God in true worship.
Our Ministry Usefulness takes us out of our comfort zones as tools useful to God.
Our Spiritual Gifts enable us to build up the body of Christ; the Holy Spirit uses us to help each other’s faith grow in Jesus.
Our Personal Styles indicate the way we prefer to relate to people and the world around us.
Our Ministry Passions pulsate heartfelt desires that compel us to make a difference for the kingdom of God.
Our Sweet Spot is the place where our gifts, styles, and passions converge so we can know where to best categorize ministry in kingdom service.
After forty years of faithful service to the company, Mark was finally getting his reward—a formal retirement banquet held in his honor. When the night arrived, everyone showed up looking their best. White-gloved attendants served all of the meal’s courses. Mark was truly enjoying his meal with family and friends. However, as dessert was being served the people looked around the banquet hall nervously. Where was the honored guest? Perhaps Mark slipped out quietly due to an urgent need? After dessert, the CEO of the company got up to speak, awkwardly confessing that no one had seen Mark for quite some time. Suddenly, one of the servers came bursting out of the kitchen. Mark was back there—up to his elbows in soapy water! He had been part of the festivities all night, but now he was waiting on his guests, unrecognized. Now he was doing the dishes. It’s a ridiculous story, right? What guest of honor would spend his moment of glory doing the dirty work for others? “You can be the guest of honor,” we’d say, “or you can be the dish washer. But you can’t be both!”
Unless, of course, we’re talking about Jesus. At the last banquet Jesus experienced with his closest followers, he was the guest of honor, supreme leader, king—and the towel-wrapped busboy, servant, and foot-washer (John 13). The Son of God was also the Son of Man, who did not come to be served, but to serve. It is perhaps the supreme paradox in God’s kingdom. Greatness and servanthood are not simply compatible; they are synonymous. No one will know greatness in God’s kingdom without knowing kingdom service. No one.
There is one final paradox for us to consider. When we use our spiritual gifts, personal styles, and ministry passions in the spirit of kingdom service, something happens to us as well as through us. Old patterns of pride and self-absorption get disrupted. We explore our strengths and come face-to-face with our weaknesses. We’re living in our “sweet spot” where competitiveness gives way to fresh reliance on community. Kingdom service is a transforming endeavor.
Someday there will be a banquet for us in heaven. We will be welcomed, celebrated, and acknowledged as honored guests. And if they find us serving in the kitchen, we must know that right next to us will be Jesus himself, smiling at us with hearty approval…towel in hand, joyfully drying the dishes we just washed! Until that day, the challenge for Jesus-followers is not to die for Jesus, but to live for Jesus. The challenge is to be living in our sweet spot by transmitting faith into action and translating words into deeds. Amen!